AS DIVA D SEES IT!
As women well over 40 my skincare regimen needs to be assessed. Even though aging occurs gradually and sometimes it is hard to notice the slight changes, especially when we fall in love with a product that we use for years, swear by it and refuse to realize that times have changes, and so have we.
It is very important to be on top of what is available on the market and moisturize should be our number one priority. While we all dream about a quick fix, or better yet a miracle in a bottle we have to give up our unrealistic obsession with flawless skin. Life takes over, wrinkles happen; aging is a natural and beautiful process that is inevitable to everyone.
Instead of concentrating on how many wrinkles you have embrace yourself for all that you achieved, for everything you have learned and for all that is still ahead. Now after you are done embracing, lets move onto enhancing. To downplay some of the natural effects of aging follow those simple steps, and enjoy your beautiful features, and remember the best is yet to come!
You Can No Longer Afford to Have Direct SunLight. It's bad for you; get over it
If you are still smoking, your skin will have irreparable damage your skin will be dull and gray. Just imagine yourself with grey hair and grey skin. If you haven’t put down that cigarette of yours yet, don’t come crying to me.
You are what you eat.
Vegetable and Fruits are good, Meat and Dairy is bad. Learn to live without it; I’m trying.
Most of all diseases are caused by stress only herpes is from pleasure(something to think about).
Your face is your treasure, wash it twice a day and moisturize it.
NEVER go to sleep with make up on. I don’t care what time you are climbing into your bed.
Your decolletage ( a woman's cleavage as revealed by a low neckline) is in immediate need of attention, so is your neck, your hands,elbows and heels. Remember MOISTURIZE!
If you have the urge to touch your face, think twice. If you still have the desire, go wash your hands.
Your make up has not meant to last forever,you are over 40 how old is that Channel eyes-shadow of yours?
Exercise your abs, work out your legs, and don’t forget your jaw muscles.
WATER, 10 glasses a day will keep plastic surgeon away. Water with lemons, water with cucumber, plain water and herbal tea is your goal. Stay away from carbonated and sugar drinks.
Take care of your skin and your soul the rest will take care of itself.
And don't forget to share what worked for you.
Flashbulbs went off as each Plus Size Model hit the runway
called "The Diamond Diva Stage! " These 15 Curvy Models wearing all Consignment
Fashions at the 1st Annual Diamond Diva Fashion Show benefiting The Douglas County Women’s and Children Shelter.
My mind was racing and heart pounding because this was the first time a fashion show of these caliber had been done and it was also my very first production.
I have never been so nervous and excited all at the same time (except when
my children were born).
some of the best Atlanta has to offer by way of “Full Figured, Plus Size,
Curvy” women from all walks of life, backgrounds, economic status and ethnicity.
These philanthropic women; some of which are aspiring models, some doing it for
the sheer fun of it and, others doing because I asked.
Whatever the reason the show was AMAZING! The
show did not sell out and, we did not reach our primary goal to write a check
for The Douglas County Women’s and Children Shelter but what the show did do
was help some of the models live a lifelong dream, vendors found patrons and
future clients, volunteers found fulfillment, speakers found an audience and I
found God! I found that I can do ALL THINGS through Christ that strengthens
ME!! It was a long journey to this self-discovery and the knowledge that God
was in deed in COMPLETE CONTROL!!!
REWIND: The BEGINNING: I went to a fashion show in Columbus
GA as a vendor, I made no money not even my vendor fee was not recouped but it
was an amazing event. Later in the same month I got a vision of my own show;
the vision was at a small venue with 20 or so models, performers, photographers,
vendors, a DJ, a Beautiful hostess and two designers on board. By the end of that day, I had the day, date
and time December 6, 2014 4pm, venue, hostess, DJ, photographer, a model
coordinator and a complete plan. The 1
step was to reach out to another consignment shop that may want to participate. I reached to another online consignment shop
that caters to Plus Size Women (I will not name the shop) we decide to partner
on this event. So now I have a partner,
venue, hostess, DJ, photographer and EXCITEMENT!! 1st Hurdle: The Venue called to say someone came
in with their deposit and took our date off the calendar so we had to choose another
date or another venue. It was suggested
that the 7 was open and Sunday’s are cheaper and a better day for
a fashion show. So we change the date to
Sunday December 7, 2014 4pm
2nd Hurdle: The partner and her affiliates wanted
to meet. They wanted to change the
concept of my vision. Like a child in
the WORD OF GOD! I allowed myself to change what God had given me. So we
decided not to do any designers, boutiques or shops other than the two of
us. The reasoning was good but I felt
some type of way. I called the two
designers to tell them we decided to go in a different direction ( needless to
say I lost these connection) but I pressed forward.
3rd Hurdle: We decided make flyers for the model
call with a printing company. The picture I chosen
for the flyer was one I found on google. I got a instant message of Facebook
from one of the models in the picture who said to me I didn’t give you
permission to use my face. Even though I
was at the event this picture was taken and it was in the cloud; I decided to
change it which cost extras to do and my then partner didn’t want to pay for
it. I ate it.
4th Hurdle: After the model call and the first meet and greet, we couldn’t decide where to rehearse so I called the venue and
they offered up what I thought was a reasonable price to pay to use the venue
for 2 to 3 hours, 1 day a week for 4 weeks.
My then partner didn't want to pay this fee and offered no other
suggestions on where to rehearse. I ate
the fees for rehearsals. By the grace of
God I sent me two friends one of which became the model coordinator and coach
who paid for two of the rehearsal and a very close friend that I meet through
groups we are both apart of; she paid for one of the rehearsal which left me
only having to pay for three rehearsals.
5th Hurdle: During our 4 rehearsal we
decided to do fittings for the show. I
let my then partner bring items to fit the models. When she brought items some of the models was
not pleased with what they saw and didn’t like a lot of the items. I have been in this industry for years and I
know from experience if you are a model you wear what is provided but in this
case these where consignment pieces which already has a negative wrap, so we
lost five of our twenty models that day.
I had to tell the remaining 15 to hold tight to you see what I have.
6th Hurdle: It was now time to pay deposits for
the photographer, host and entertainment.
My then partner had noted that no tickets had been sold and what were
these people doing to help bring in ticket sales??? She what to change the
format again by letting the DJ host the show, have no entertainment and have
someone use their cell phone(smart phone) to take pictures. I Vito this time. The DJ had his own job and The Hostess makes
the show, we told the women that signed up to be in the show that they would
have professional photos. We paid the
deposits but it came with a contract that my then partner wrote up stating she
would only put in out of pocket $500 so with her payment of all the deposits it
left her a balance of $225 and not a
penny more. I revise the contract and
said I will match her out pocket expenses and I will not pay a penny more into
the show as well.
7th Hurdle: I reached out to two of my acquaintances
and asked if they could do make up for the show, which we had said to the
models that would have. Both of them
came with outrageous fees to do makeup.
This is a charitable event but it seems everyone wants to benefit
themselves. I was dumbfounded to say the
least. I went to the schools to get some
students and volunteers
8th Hurdle: By the last rehearsal everyone was
excited. But, everyone had not been
fitted for the show by my then partner.
She had not made any attempts to do so. So some of the models were a
little anxious. Well we found out that
most of the items she had for the show, she had taken pictures of the models
and put them on her website then sold them so now she is scrambling around
trying to get some items for the show.
9th Hurdle: The DJ I hired can’t be reached, so
now I have to find a new DJ. It’s 5 days
before show, where can I find a DJ willing to work for $200 for 6 hours and
wait to get paid the day of the show?????
10th Hurdle: We had only 25 tickets sold but we
had 12 vendors. The balances are now all
due and we were $500 short outside of both of our out pocket
contributions. I had to pay out of my
pocket $500 but I know everyone saw that coming back at hurdle 6.
Just When you have jumped every hurdle and you thought it would be smooth sailing from here..............
Night before the show.
I and my then partner decided to rent a truck to bring all out items to
the show. I left it up to my then
partner to make the arrangements. I went home with this annoying headache and a
pitt in my stomach. My daughter said to
me, let’s go get our own vehicle???? I said I don’t want to spend any more
money out of pocket. Day of the show; I got a call from my then partner at 9am
December 7, 2014; she said I decided to get a trailer and it looks like it will
only carry my items but I can drop off my items at the venue and come back for
you and your items. The venue is in
Decatur, we both live about 45mins away, we were supposed to be at the venue by
11am to setup and do a run through of the show. My daughter said I knew this
was going to happen, my sister says don’t worry, God got this! My model
coordinator offered to pick me up, my good friend said she could come and pick
up some of my items. I went to my prayer
closet and closed the door.
I came out
and said find me a truck; mind you it’s Sunday???? My daughter found a place that
was open nearby, sister told her let’s go, they both said to me, you stay here
a keep getting ready. It’s now 11:00am
I told my then partner, never mind you go on, I told my model
coordinator you go ahead and get everyone ready, I told my friend to go on
ahead to help at the venue. My daughter
and sister came with the truck around 12pm. We started to pack the truck when we realized the truck had no ramp and
we would have lift everything. While we rolled the racks out they fell over and
all of my cleaned, iron, bagged and tagged clothing fell on the ground. We laid
plastic all around the truck and laid all the clothing on the floor of the
truck. We load the truck and headed for
the venue it’s now 1pm
On the drive to the venue, I kept thinking of all the things
I was going to have to do when I got there.
My sister was following us in the truck.
By the time we got to the venue it was 2pm and doors opens at 3pm and
the show starts at 4pm.
We walked in: The models were getting ready, the floor had
been set, the volunteers had setup the vendor tables, and vendors were helping
each other. I stood in the middle of the
floor and cried. The models all went to my truck and started bring items in and
organizing, looking for their perspective items but it was all a mess. My model coordinator said to me, you go and
do whatever you need to do cause “WE GOT THIS”. So I left to help to finish setup.
I went out to see my then partner was setting up her OWN
BOOTH! It was well organized and together, whereas my stuff was all wrinkled
and some dirty. So I didn’t setup my clothing booth just my jewelry. I said
nothing to her the entire night. 4:03pm Opening number……..The videographer/photographer and performer
were not here. I called; they said they were on their way. The DJ was the venue house DJ and he said he
didn’t have all my music, I said just play whatever. The
videographer/photographer and performer arrived half way in the show. So basically they missed the 1
half of the show. One of the models had to do all the girls makeup so she is
now exhausted but she pressed on.
By, the time I was able to breath, I realize I was still in
my t-shirt and leggings………
I said all of this just to say LOOK AT WHAT GOD CAN DO!!!!!!
We sold $300 in jewelry and we had standing room only. Although I didn’t pay my last invoice until
May 2015. My take away from this
experience was that God is all the partnering I need. I learned to surround
myself with good people, take nothing for granted and ALWAYS, ALWAYS stay
Post your thoughts! and visit our website to see more pictures of the show and the 2015 show as well www.diamondivafashionshow.com You can also watch our youtube video below.
Highlighter: A highlighter is another beauty must for your whole face. A good highlighter willdraw out your eyes and help you add definition to your face where you want tosee a little definition. I always apply a little highlighter to help my eyespop and to add a little extra oomph to my cheekbones.
Mascara: Ican’t possibly stress the importance on a good mascara enough. I love mascara. I do not have naturally long, full lashes so I apply mascara to give me a full look. I love how mascara looks on nude eyes but I also love adding mascara to a nice dramatic eye look. Mascara gives your eyes a beautiful, bold look and helps your eyes really pop.
Eyeliner: We all know eyeliner isimportant. There are very few looks out there that don’t involve using eyelinerto some extent. What you may not realize though is that eyeliner doesn’t justhave to be black, brown or black/brown. I have a whole rainbow of colors injust about every type of eyeliner. Sometimes all you really need to change up atired look is a new eyeliner color.
Eye Shadow Palette: I have roughly two hundred different eye shadow colors in my arsenal – from warm tones to cool tones, from light shades to dark shades and everything in between. A good makeup palette might cost a little extra but the extra money is worth it. Look for something that offers a wide range of colors in one palette or look for smaller palettes that focus on warm or cool tones. I have three palettes, one filled with cool tones, one filled with warm tones and one filled with bright,bold shadows.
Brow Pencil: Your brows are importantand shouldn’t be overlooked. A good brow pencil should be a shade or twolighter than your natural brow color and should be used to fill in your browevery time you wear makeup. A filled in brow gives you makeup a more completelook and helps avoid making your brows stand out for all the wrong reasons.
Tweezers: This one goes hand inhand with the brow pencil. Again, your brows are important and keeping themwell manicured is important. That is why having a decent pair of tweezers isimportant. While some women swear by stencils as well, if you can get a nicelook on your own and don’t get too pluck happy, stencils really aren’tnecessary.
Blush: I remember being told that ladies don’t need to wear blush so for many years, I skipped this beauty staple. It was a mistake. Blush is important. It gives your face a nice tone and color and helps you highlight your cheek bones. Blush is also available in a wide variety of colors making it easy to find a shade that works for any look.
Bronzer: Bronzer is a beautiful product. It helps you contour and accentuate your cheeks and can either helpyou get a bold, dramatic look or a more subtle look depending on how you useit. When I wear makeup, there are very few occasions that bronzer is not partof my look.
Lipstick: A good selection of lipstick will feature pale shades, bold shades, dark shades,neutral shades in browns, pinks, plums and reds. You might have a particularcolor that works for you – or a color family – but it’s always nice to havemore options at your fingertips in case you decide you want to change it up.When talking about lipstick, it’s important to note that expensive is not always better. Some of my favorite products are the least expensive ones I’ve purchased.
Gloss: I love lip gloss. Having a few tinted glosses,a few clear glosses and a few glosses with varying degrees of shine can reallyhelp you pull your whole makeup look together. When I’m doing a bold look formy eyes, I like to wear a nude or light pink lipstick with a layer of cleargloss on top to keep my lips from looking too naked. For more casual looks, anice tinted gloss is sometimes all I bother with. Gloss is versatile and itshouldn’t be overlooked.
Balm: Just as you want to nurture your skin, you also want to make sure you’re nurturing your lips. Lip balm can soothe damagedlips or help protect your lips and keep them from getting damaged in the firstplace. A nice, softly tinted lip balm keeps your lips healthy but can also be asubtle way to draw attention to your lips.
Liner: I will admit to being one of those women who rarely uses lip liner. Despite rarely wearing it, I do own lip liner in a whole host of colors because there are times when I want to add a little definition and shape to my lips. I find lip liner most useful when I’m going with a basic eye and bold lips. The liner just adds that little touch of definition and shape and pulls the look together.
Of course there are always the little extras you should keep around:
I would put a good selection of high quality makeup brushes at the top of that list. A good makeup look often uses severaldifferent brushes. I’m going to talk more about brushes in an upcoming article but for now, I’d really like to stress the importance of a good brush set. There are lots of kits out there that offer you the basics. I’d recommend picking up one of those sets and adding to it as you need to. You don’t have to spend a lot of money to get the brushes you need, but don’t ignore how important they are.
Finally, although not necessarily a makeup essential, I’d recommend picking up some makeup wipes. Makeup wipes are formulated to remove makeup quickly and easily without damaging your skin. I would recommend spending a little extra here or at least doing research into products you wantto pick up to save money. Avoid anything with harsh scents or chemicals as you’ll be using these wipes on your face and around your eyes. Safety first!
What would you add to your makeup bag? Post your answers!
Diva Style of The Month
This Alabama Beauty now lives in Austell GA. She has worked with State Farm since 2008.
A Proud member of Crossroads for Life Ministries in Douglasville GA and a family member of Lady and Pastor Ford.
LaTeaka: A Diva to me is a person who exudes great style and personality with confidence. They express their own style and isn't easily distracted from who they are and who they want to be.
As Diva D Sees IT!
LaTeaka or Teaka as we call her was choosen to be in The Diamond Diva Fashion Show 2015 unfortunately she was unable to walk in the show this year but was a great back stage volunteer at the event. Teaka is my sister in Christ at Crossroads and has always been gracious and kind. Her style is all about the hair. I have never seen her have a bad hair day because of all the constant changes in her hair styles. Her Diva Style is on POINT!
This Months' Diva Style Features Stephanie Gray aka Stef
To me having Diva Style Means: Owning who I am. Every curve, every flaw, every imperfection...it belongs to me and I own it. I earned it, I am proud of it. I want to share it with all those who come in contact with me. No one can duplicate or reproduce or be me!
My dark brown eyes, my wide & inviting smile, my curvy body, my naturally curly hair - and my "star-like" personality brings this Diva to life.
Being a Diva means being the best Stephie I can be! It mean being positive and supportive, encouraging, passionate, courageous and generous to all those that come in contact with me.
Being a Diva means owning and sharing my confidence and kindness with others.
I am a 48 year old aspiring plus size model, actress, writer, entertainment reporter and so much more. I cant wait to see what else is in store for my life.
This Diva is under construction. Life has thrown a few things this Diva's way and she went into hiding. But she stayed the course, followed the process and now "SHE" is READY to SHINE!
In 1991 I received an BA in Speech Communications and theater from Winthrop University. In 2015 I am modeling, aspiring to make my dreams a reality, with the hopes of inspiring other women to do the same.
Becoming a Diamond Diva has given me the sisterhood and the empowerment of like minded women who want to see me shine and who encourage me to be me!
As my pastor says, "thank God I dont look like what I've been through". I Thank God for lifting me up and walking me through the fire. Now I can say, yes "I" am a Diva! Knowing that it is "His" light shining on and through me. I own it because "He" gave it to me.
I am looking to build my resume and my portfolio with new and exciting experiences that will enhance me personally & professionally.
As Diva D Sees It:
We fell in love with Stef when she came out to the Model Call for the 2nd Annual Diamond Diva Fashion Show December 5th. She had a inner beauty and a smile that lit of the room. Although unsure of her runway walk she did a great job convincing us that she would be a valuable assets to The Diamond Diva Stage! And she has not dissappoint.
Her Diva Style & Smile is a must for The Diamond Diva Fashion Show! Welcome Her and Let's Comment!!!