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Do You! He can't Create You!!

Ever since Kim Kardashian and Kanye West have been dating they have been kind of a hot topic in the media. As of late we have seen  Kim rocking the fashions from Kanye’s clothing line.
While some of the clothes have not been that flattering, she cleared her closet of the wardrobe that she was used to and made room for the new wardrobe that Kanye created for her. 
All I could do was shake my head. There is a big difference between changing yourself to fit someone else’s vision of how you should be, and just upgrading yourself a little bit. We all want to be in love and in great relationships but at what cost?  When you decideto be with someone you get to know them. When you do, you should be able to accept them flaws and all.
We all have flaws. None of us are perfect. There is no such thing as someone possessing the “perfect” trait. With that said, its nice to look good for your significant other. Who doesn’t want to do that?  Its when they want to change everything about you.
That is when it becomes a problem. Some people mature while they are in relationships and some don’t.  Some people also put their happiness aside to make sure the other person is satisfied and their needs are met.  
Not saying that this is what Kim is doing because we simply can’t assume that,  But in a lot of cases the revamping of the wardrobe and only wearing the things that your man wants you to wear would be part one in the chronicles of the controlling boyfriend.
Lets say that Kim was only trying to help Kanye promote his clothing line. Why can’t she do that and still keep her own clothes? Wear her own clothing line?
Compromise is also a big part of relationships but you aren’t supposed to compromise to the point where you have nothing left. Otherwise its called settling. Settling so that you won’t be alone. If you were already secure with yourself before your significant other came along and you all of a sudden feel insecure because it seems like nothing you wear or do is appealing to them, then you should wonder if that relationship is worth it.There is always a right and wrong way to do things and putting your own needs and happiness on the back burner is not good.
Again, I am not assuming but merely stating that sometimes when a man wants to change you, its not a good look. Our flaws are there for a reason. The only perfect being is God.  Don’t try to make yourself over to appeal to someone’s perfect image that they created in their mind. At the end of the day, they will never be satisfied and neither will you.
What Do you Think?

3 Comments to Do You! He can't Create You!!:

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Meme Taylor on Monday, November 26, 2012 11:47 AM
This was very interesting. I think that most women like to please to the point it could become obessive.
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Jamie Bond on Monday, November 26, 2012 11:49 AM
i never look at it like this. Great synopsis on how We as woman change or comfrom to please our men. Keepup the great words of wisdom
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